Most of us like to think we’re not into head games. We would even say that we are people of integrity and that we do our best to speak truth to others and deliver our ideas and opinions in honorable ways. If you identify with this, you’re right, at least in the way you treat those around you. But…what about you? What about the thoughts that you let wildly loose in your own mind? What about the head games you play on yourself?
We all do it! We step into a new project with gusto and give it all we have and then when it’s delivered, we start doubting ourselves and our efforts. Suddenly, everything we did is now under the scrutiny of someone else and we’re pretty sure they will judge us as not measuring up, not quite what they were looking for. Certainly, that does happen to us when we put our work in the hands of others and rely on them to give us approval or rejection. My question is, why do we automatically prepare for the rejection? Why do we go into sinking thinking, where we’re pretty sure the whole thing won’t work out?
Of course, we do it in part as a protective mechanism because we’ve experienced enough failure to know that it surely does rear its head more often than success. But, we’ve also experienced success!! We’ve also been there when the verdict for our work was yes, go forward. Was there a difference in how we were thinking? Did we “expect” to win and therefore we did? Alas, it isn’t that simple, but it is appropriate to raise the bar for ourselves and the way we play internal mind games.
Sinking thinking is nothing more than doubt. Doubt is that twin brother of worry and both of them can get you into a lot of trouble. It’s interesting that doubt is also one of the big ring contenders for faith. Put them both face to face to duke it out with each other, and who will win? “Have faith,” is what Jesus said to his followers over and over again. If Jesus had a site on Twitter, He’d probably put that phrase up there every day because most of us keep forgetting its truth. We get that sinking feeling and before you know it we’re busy convincing ourselves that no good thing can actually happen to us because after all it hasn’t for a long time and so that must be some kind of truth. Is that the place we want to stay? You may visit doubt, but it’s not such a good idea to adopt it.
So today, let’s swap the sinking thinking, or as Joyce Meyer calls it, the stinking thinking, and go to the “kind mind” thinking, the place that is kinder to your spirit and the one that waves doubt aside. Winners keep the image of victory solidly in mind no matter how many hurdles they have to run through. Your image is Jesus who waved the flag and set the course for you to run and who is there at the finish line to give you your reward. No doubt needed, no sinking thinking, just the winners circle, the place where you’re destined to be.
Kind mind, less stress, win-win…now that is faith at work! I’m still rooting for you!