As I was saying my prayers the other day and struggling with some of my usual questions for God, like those that come with a “why” or an “I don’t understand this” tag, I realized that my comments could actually be a reflection of something He might want to say to ME! I thought about all the times He might be wanting to ask me “why” I made a crazy choice, or why I acted out when He was trying to gently shape and mold me. I realized God must have been thinking “I don’t understand this and what is it you’re doing now, Karen?”
It was a rather blessed moment in our relationship. It suddenly made me understand that I cause God to have as many questions about the way I do things, as I have about the ways He does things. There’s only one real solution to that dilemma. We have to get to know each other better. We need to understand what is happening within us so God doesn’t have to operate without us. Jesus told His followers that “I am within you and you are within me.” That’s a point worth noting because it’s about as intimate as a relationship can possibly get.
If TV programming is any indication, we’re always struggling with intimacy issues. Some of us do seek to know ourselves better so we can authentically share our truths with others. When I imagine Jesus being within me and even more “me” being within Him, it gives me a sense of awe and a great desire for each of us to strive to know each other better, to discover our truths.
When I translate that to relationships ranging from family to friendships to love interests, I’m struck with that same understanding. I am within you and you are within me. The places where our lives intersect have bonded us in ways that nothing can separate. Time or distance, life or death, sunshine or shadow, nothing can separate us from each other. That is incredible intimacy!
By extension then, I want nothing but your happiness, your well-being, the best that God can possibly offer you. Because we’re part of each other, I want those things for me as well. In recent times, we have prided ourselves on the gifts of independence, of going it alone, of doing everything we can by ourselves, but it seems to me today that the truth is, we’re not alone, never have been and never were intended to be. As Jesus said, “I am in the Father, you are in Me, and I am in you. The one who loves Me will do the things I have commanded. My Father loves everyone who loves Me, and I will love you and reveal My heart, will, and nature to you.” (Jn. 14:20-21)
For me, this is good news. This means our bonds can never be broken for even when we are without each other, we have a connection that lives and breathes and holds dear all that we are within our hearts and minds. This thought brings me a sense of peace and order and well-being. Personally, I couldn’t be more grateful. We truly are “One in the Spirit.”